Choices ~ Healing ~ Love
December 15, 2002
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As I reflect back to prior years during the holiday season, I always seem to find such miraculous beauty and peace in the lights which are celebrated in most religions: for where there is no darkness where there is light. And, just as the light nullifies the darkness; our positive thoughts nullify our negative thoughts and beliefs. Likewise hatred is nullified by the most powerful healing power in the Universe.. the healing power of "LOVE".
The holidays can be a time fully of joy, celebrations and family gatherings. And for many it is a time of self-evaluation, loneliness, reflection of past failures, hurts and anxiety about the uncertain future. For many it is particularly difficult because their loved ones will not be present on the material plane.
People come into our life for a reason, a short time, or a lifetime. Sometimes we lose sight of the bigger picture that our "Creator" or the "Universe" has had in store for us. In becoming immersed in our sadness and grief, we sometimes lose site of our other gifts that we came into this life with. They are our spiritual, intuitive or psychic gifts...call it what you may. However, if we are so caught up in our losses, we don't always take time to sit in the stillness of our own energy to ask out loud to connect with our loved ones. Our loved ones truly remain in our hearts.. and many of us have been visited and sense or feel their presence.. and many of us have seen and heard them.
The over commercialization in particular this year with an outbreak of war hovering in the back of our minds, the "holiday blues" may hit more caregivers than normal. Stress, unrealistic expectations, fatigue, finances and the inability to celebrate as you would want to, all add to the lows of the season we can experience. Shopping, cooking, preparing and caring can escalate the responses in us. While for many families it is a time to reconnect with family members but for millions of others it is a painful time to go back to the dysfunction of their family's life....so K.I.S.S. Keep it simple silly....Let all of it go right now in this moment as you are reading...take a deep breath and remind yourself that if something were to happen to you right now, who would do everything that you have been trying to accomplish under such pressures... let it go..
I had to do this with this issue of the newsletter. I just couldn't seem to get to it until this weekend. My own health is needing more balance and healing so I am creating time to nurture and heal. Often one of my little voices nags awat at me to keep pushing so that the articles are updated, the newsletter is written, organizational needs are met with NOFEC and make sure my mother is doing ok as well. I am actually laughing as I write this.. I too, can get so caught up in it all.. but you know we're human.. and in our humaness, we must committ to caring for ourselves as we do for others for if we aren't taken proper care for ourselves, then others are not really getting 100% of our caring...jeapoardizing our own health to give others care is not what caring is about..we aren't martyrs and surely we aren't victims although at times, it may feel as we are.
Let go, let go, let go... leave the dusting, leave the cooking and preparation, leave the laundry, the dirty dishes... and just be.. enroll others to help.. and if there are no others...just let it go for a few days and just breathe... and let yourself feel free from within... all this mixed energy inside you breeds weakened immune systems and disease... this isn't why we were guided to care for our loved ones...think about it and then take some special time for you...remember to K.l.S.S.
May this holiday season bring you much love, peace, good health, all you dare to dream for and much more. Let your imagination soar as you begin to unfold....
Richest Blessings to you on your journey.
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Has everyone noticed that the Christmas Holidays have come earlier this year or is it just me? It used to be that my stress level increased and my tolerance decreased just before Thanksgiving. But I swear I saw stores decorated shortly after Labor Day. Yes, the Holidays are joyous times but they can be down right stressful too.
There are four basic rules:
Knowing your loved one's level of understanding and physical ability will help you to provide activities that he/she can manage and enjoy. Play music and sing songs especially old holiday melodies. Reminisce with photo albums while telling family stories. Include the children to make it a rewarding experience for both young and old. Encourage self-expression and creativity by making craft items like holiday fans or paper garlands. When baking, encourage your loved one to help. He/she can cut out cookies using large cookie cutters or decorate them using a cookie stamp. Make sending holiday cards a joint effort, too. Your loved one can participate by putting cards in or stamps on envelopes. Keeping your loved one involved gives him/her a purpose and a sense of accomplishment.
Happy Holidays and God Bless.
Mary C. Fridley
Mary C. Fridley RN, C is a Registered Nurse board certified in gerontology with more than twenty years experience in the geriatric health field. She provides community workshops and motivational seminars on caregiver, eldercare, and aging issues as well as writes articles and caregiver advice columns for websites and publications. She is also our featured Question & Answer Columnist here at the Empowering Caregivers site. Mary will be glad to answer any questions you have and can be reached at P.O. Box 573 Riva, MD 21140, or by email: firstname.lastname@example.org.
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Dear Gail and all,
Two young boys were spending the night at their grandparents. At bedtime, the two boys knelt beside their beds to say their prayers when the youngest one began praying at the top of his lungs.
The Three Wise Women
You know what would have happened if there had been three wise WOMEN instead of three wise MEN, don't you?
Happy Birthday Cinderella
Cinderella is now 75 years old. After a fulfilling life with the now dead Prince, she happily sits upon her rocking chair, watching the world go by from her front porch, with a cat named Bob for companionship. One sunny afternoon, out of nowhere, appeared the Fairy Godmother. Cinderella said "Fairy Godmother, what are you doing here after all these years?" The Fairy godmother replied, "Cinderella, you have lived an exemplary life since I last saw you. Is there anything for which your heart still yearns?"
"Bet you're sorry you neutered me now.."
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