Choices ~ Healing ~ Love
September 1, 2004 Volume 5 Issue #12
Publisher & Editor: Gail R. Mitchell


II hope you all enjoyed a nice holiday weekend. It's been a long week here in the city with a huge upheaval as the result of the convention. Many New Yorker's fled the city for the week while those of us who stayed chose not to wander out often, keeping appointments to a minimum.

The weather changes, the hurricanes, the horrific event in Russia, have all had me down somewhat. I have been sitting in quiet sending prayers out ih all directions. We are all in need of so much healing.

I had the wonderful opportunity to hear Ram Dass speak here in the city. As many of you know he was "stroked" years ago and so he has much awareness on aging, aging in place and his different concepts about what healing was all about. He spoke of spending time up at the Zen Hospice, being fully present with those whose journeys on this plane were ending. I was truly taken by what he said when asked about people caring for those who were angry and verbally abusive.

He shared that it was important to create imaginative talks with loved ones when anger and resentment were building so that you didn't hold it in, letting it fester from within, wheverby your thoughts became so focused on the negative aspects of the situation and what you didn't want vs. what you wanted to have with them. So the imaginative talks would be an opportunity to change your thought processes to engage and create more of what you did want to experience with them. These thoughts and energies go out into the universe vibrationally, shifting the energy. It's a wonderful process to begin monitoring for yourselves from within. Especially when negative habitual patterns and dysfunctions always crop up in family dynamics, etc. Our intentions and the power of our thoughts are more powerful than we dare to imagine at times.

We laughed so hard in the audience when he first came out, sharing his mixed emotions for the convention and what was going on less then 5 streets away/ We all had truly created a safe place to be where loved filled the room with a remarkable presence amongst almost 1500 people.

I will be making a few appearances locally throughout the city during this month. I look forward to seeing some of you who are able to come out and attend the programs.

May your journey be gentle and beautiful!
In Love & Light,


Empowering Caregivers
Results of TeleSupport Group Survey

Thank you all for your participation in our telesupport survey. We received just under 100 survey responses. Highlights in the highest ranges were as follows:

  • 50% said they would like topics
  • 93% said they wanted self care for the caregiver
  • 87% said they wanted to discuss experiences and share ideas
  • 93% said they wanted to discuss family dynamics
  • 87% said they wanted to discuss emotional, mental & spiritual needs
  • 73% said they would like general support
  • 42% wanted a 4 week commitment
  • 43% wanted an 8 wee, commitment
  • 71% wanted Mondays to attend
  • 57% wanted Tuesdays, Wednesday and Thursdays
  • 33% was the highest in terms of wanting chats in the 8-9PM EST zone.

Currently, we are going to hold off on the comencement of the telesupport as we have been approached to combine our chats with another special organization. Please look for our special email that will indicate all this information during the week. It is a pilot program that will go for approximately 3 months. We may also consider incorporating the telesupport groups simultaneously. We will evaluate the needs and see where to go from there.

National Organization For Empowering Caregivers NOFEC
Sign Up For Your Free Membership
Take Our Caregiver Survey

We invite you to join in our complimentary membership at: Join Us. While you are there, please take a few minutes to fill in the Caregiver Survey. Your input is extremely valuable and we will respect your privacy. Your support in filling in the survey will help us and our funders to reveal areas where programming is most needed and where it will be most effectivec. Survey.

Mary C. Fridley
Questions & Answers
September 2004

Autumn Reminds Me Of The Eternality Of Life

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Breaking The Patient Out Of The Hospital by Caryn Isaacs
A patient advocate shares a story for one of her clients and their successes at navigating through the difficult systems' dictates and protocols. Article

State Support for Family Caregivers and Paid Home-Care Workers 2004 from National Governors Association
Strategies are presented and discussed at this year's National Governors Association conference for state support for family caregivers and paid home care workers.Article

Family Caregiving and Public Policy Principles for Change by a Collaborative Group Of Family Careigver Advocates
Principles the United States needs to develop for responsible social policy to address the needs of caregiving families who have unwittingly taken on the dual jobs of health care & social service provider.Article.

My Great Regret by Sue Bodnaruk
The author shares her feelings and regrets in not having broken through the cultural traditions that her mother was a part of in hopes so that others will have more enriched experiences with their mothers before they pass. Article

Deep Waters Run Still by Stephen Geez
Short story about dignity and respect for Alzheimer's Disease patients. Article.

The Time To Protect Medicaid Is Now by Dr. Gema Hernandez
The author discusses why it is so important to make sure Medicaid is protected from policy changes that will impact the ability of the middle class to access home and community based services. Article.

Get Your Affairs in Order! By Kathy Bosworth
Are you having a hard time talking to your loved ones about end of life issues? You are not alone. Communication is imperative! Article.

Understanding The New Medicare Prescription And Discount Drug Program by Dr. David Nganele
The Medicare Prescription Drug Improvement Act, now also known as Medicare Part D. This law is supposed to finally close that gaping hole called xlack of prescription drug coveragex in Medicare. Article.

Elderly Living "La Vida Loca" by Gema G. Hernández
Hernandez writes about how the image of elderly changed with years from negative to "positive and compassionate". She also describes this "compassionate" image and what caused the misconception in the first place. Article..

It's Just A Figure Of Speech by Mary C. Fridley RN, BC
Learn about the different types of aphasia and how to communicate with dementia and stroke impaired persons.

In Memory

The world mourns the death of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D., a major figure who changed the publics' thinking about the end of life. Kubler-Ross, a psychiatrist, found that Americans in the 1960s were becoming liberated about many things, but they could not talk about death and dying. Her best-selling book, "On Death And Dying", identified the five end stages and individual goes through moving from denial through acceptance. She was a pioneer in the field. Having corresponded with her after her stroke, she found the healthcare system wasn't loving to her in hew own care. Her books and awarenesses have helped millions to heal through death and dying. May her own journey be gentle and nurturing. read more.

This note came from a very special member noftifying us of her father's passage:

My sister and I were holding his hand when he took his last breath this morning at 11:10. He fought esophageal cancer for three long, hard years and is now at rest. It was one of the most precious moments of my life. I just wanted to thank you all for your well-wishes and kind words. I found you only a few weeks ago but you have helped, temendously. Melissa

Melissa, our thoughts and prayers are with your and your sister for a gentle, nurturing healing. May your father's transition continue to be gentle and nurturing as well. It is such a special, sacred moment.. one that is very difficult to express verbally.. but it is such a healing, memorable moment.. and you will be able to carry him as well as the moment in your heart.. You were his angel, a blessing... helping him throughout this whole time... Please feel comfortable in staying with us and sharing as you continue to heal...



Can You Control It?

A tremendous amount of stress occurs when you don't understand and accept your limitations. When you attempt to control something in life that is not within your sphere of influence how do you feel and react? What is it like for you to experience powerlessness?

Can you control another's thoughts, behaviors and attitudes? Are you able to make it rain or snow? Can you make a family or friend's cancer go away? It may be easier to consider these questions from a detached perspective and say to yourself, "No, I certainly cannot control these areas." However, it's surprising how much of life folks struggle over which is not within their control. More often than not, you are not aware that you're lack of peace has to do with controlling or worrying about something outside of your grasp.

ndependence worldwide is growing stronger, and what a fine attribute to claim for yourself. Yet, as in many of the ways people and nations grow, the pendulum often swings too far. Nowadays it's considered a character flaw if you cannot control everything. Ever look at a parent and their child in public and think, "Boy, I sure wish she'd get control of HER child!" How much control can or should a mother have over a 6 year old child?

There are many organizations, beliefs and traditions to draw from when seeking help in this area of your life. A powerfully wise tradition is the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. To not be an alcoholic makes you fortunate, however, I hope you've been lucky enough to discover the wisdom of the 12 Steps. And for our discussion, the first step in particular. Let me list it for you here...

We admitted we were powerless over [alcohol] -- that our lives had become unmanageable.

I put the word "alcohol" in brackets because you may place anything in that bracket you'd like to. In fact, my invitation is for you to test it out with a few of the more nagging things in your life -- how about depression, anxiety, marital concerns, parenting issues, clutter, chronic pain... ?

Attempting to control a thing in your life that is not yours to control will effectively make that, and other parts of your life, unmanageable. If you but ADMIT POWERLESSNESS in a heartfelt manner, much can be different for you. Here's the catch though... If you admit powerless- ness you may judge yourself as a failure or someone else may do it for you. It takes tremendous courage and humility to admit when something is out of your control.

Admitting powerlessness in a situation does not remove responsibility. For instance, the alcoholic who admits powerlessness over alcohol is still responsible for the effects of his/her disease on everyone around them, as well as for their recovery today and in the future. This is covered beautifully in steps 2-12 of the 12 Steps.

There's a second catch though... a good one. There's tremendous freedom in a genuine admission of powerlessness. It's as though the heavy chains you've been locked into place with, fall to the floor. It's like taking your first big breath of fresh air after nearly suffocating. The weight of a burden is cast away and a different approach has its beginning.

Figuring out what you have influence over and what you do not can be a challenge. If you were to take a sheet of paper and create two columns, one with the heading "Can Influence" and the other with "Powerless Over," this will assist you in the process of determining what areas of your life go where. This will make this process simpler. There will be some areas you'll have to discern over. They will not conform easily to one side or the other, and there may be components of a problem which you can influence and other parts you cannot control.

Let's take an in-law problem, for example. This one would likely belong in both columns. You may not be able to control what your in-law does (area for acceptance), but, at the same time, you can set boundaries as well as decide what kinds of thoughts and behaviors you will display when this person is around you.

I'll leave you with another very popular tool to help you with achieving peace and joy in your life. We know it as The Serenity Prayer. It was originally spoken in a presentation given in 1932 by Dr. Reinhold Niebuhr. It was the ending to a much longer prayer. Here is how we know it today:

The Serenity Prayer

Grant me the SERENITY
To ACCEPT the things I cannot change...
COURAGE to change the things I can...
and the WISDOM to know the difference.

Take the necessary steps today to unburden yourself of just one area of your life that you are powerless over. You can do it. You will discover a new freedom by taking this unique action today.

Dave Turo-Shields, Inc.

Dave Turo-Shields, ACSW, LCSW is an author, university faculty member, success coach and veteran psychotherapist whose passion is guiding others to their own success inlife. For weekly doses of the webs HOTTEST success tips, sign up for Dave’s powerful “Feeling Great!” ezine at his web site.

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CAREGIVING: A Series of Classes At CUNY, New York City

This course will provide support and guidance to caregivers, helping them move into this role with greater knowledge, awareness, and ease. Each session will begin with a presentation on relevant information and resources, followed by a question-and-answer and discussion period. You may sign up for the series, or for individual sessions. If you would like to attend these programs but are unable to do so due to caregiving responsibilities, our office can provide you with a list of volunteer programs and cost-effective alternatives for hiring an aid.

Gail Mitchell, Founder/President, National Organization for Empowering Caregivers in NYC; speaks nationwide on issues related to caregiving; creator, Empowering Caregivers, a major caregiving website that has had over three million visitors; author, more than 200 articles published in the U.S. and Canada.
4873 - 6 Wednesdays, October 20-December 1 6:30-8:30pm $135

Introduction to Caregiving
This session will provide an introduction to the unique role of the caregiver, and will consider how to respond positively to the challenges of caregiving. The session will focus on concrete strategies for promoting states of mindfulness and awareness and opening ourselves to forgiveness, healing, and love.
4874 - Wednesday, October 20 6:30-8:30pm $25

Getting Comfortable in Your Role as Caregiver
This session will address practical considerations that caregivers need to be familiar with. Topics to be discussed include How to Assess Your Loved One's Level of Need; How to Make Informed Decisions; How to Help Your Loved One Maintain His or Her Independence; and The Different Demands Placed upon the Caregiver When Caring for a Spouse, Parent, Relative, Child, or Friend.
4875 - Wednesday, October 27 6:30-8:30pm $25

Self-Care: Avoiding Stress & Caregiver Burnout
One of the most important aspects of caregiving is self-care. This session will consider the major causes of stress, its symptoms, and prevention; the importance of nurturing your soul; making time for your own needs; and knowing when and how to reach out for help and support.
4876 - Wednesday, November 3 6:30-8:30pm $25

Getting Proper Care for Your Loved Ones and Making Decisions about Placement
This session will cover aspects of care and placement issues. Topics to be discussed include Adult Day Care; Senior Centers; Assisted Living; Retirement Communities; and Nursing Homes, as well as transportation and meals-on-wheels programs. Also to be discussed are how and when to hire home care, how to choose an assisted living or nursing home, and how to break a promise you may have made.
4878 - Wednesday, November 10 6:30-8:30pm $25

Financial, Insurance, and Legal Issues
This session will cover financial, insurance, and legal issues, including wills, dnr's, proxy, probate, guardianship, and healthcare proxy.
4879 - Wednesday, november 17 6:30-8:30pm $25

Hospice, Death, Dying, Grief & Bereavement
This session will consider various end-of-life issues.
4880 - Wednesday, december 1 6:30-8:30pm $25

To register or receive a FREE catalogue of programs - (212) 817-8215 or send an email to"

In Search Of Hope & Forgiveness
Fordham University- Bronx, NY
Conference on Saturday, September 18th

Keynote presentations by Rev Joseph O'Hare, President Emeritus of Fordham University, Rev. Douglas Ronsheim, Executive Director, American Association of Pastoral Counselors, with breakout workshops led by Ellen Bartoldus, Gail R. Mitchell, Irene A. Gutheil, Eleanor Ramos, Rev. Mihelle White and Rev. Milton Donato.

Topics include, Healing Conversations: Decisions at The End Of Life, Assisting Families In The Death Of A Loved One, Creativity and Spirituality Parnters In The Healing Process, Empowering Caregivers, Helping Faith Communities to Minister to Home Bound Edlers and Partners In Healing Providing Pastoral Care In A Time Of Need.

For more information: Contact Dr. Beverly Musgrave, Patners In Healing, Fordham University at 718.817.4713

Anger In Caregiving: Intentions and Mindfulness
Tools For Transformation
Wednesday, September 29th
6:30-8:00 PM
Lenox HIll Neighborhood Center
Senior Center at 331 East 70th Street, NYC
Contact Christopher Chin to Reserve Your Space: 212.744.5022 ext 5266

Evoke Your Greatness: Free Teleclass
Tuesday, September 14, 2004, from 1-2pm ESTe
With John Felitto

Will you be one of our 8 Players who will create what they want in 90-days? This teleclass will introduce you to John Felitto's 90-Day Game using the *Evoke Your Greatness©" process. Whether or not you go forward with the 90-Day Game, you will take away from this teleclass 4 of the 20 "Key Practices" you can use to create what you want. After this one-hour teleclass, you will know if this process is a fit for you. John has taken the best of Mind Development and Whole Brain Technologies, Emotional Intelligence and Consciousness Disciplines, Intuitive and Spiritual-Based Practices and organized them into one Comprehensive Life Design System. End procrastination, enjoy clarity, movement, momentum, AND ease while getting the job done. Finally give yourself the permission to achieve what you want. For more info and to register for the class please go to teleclass.

Contact: John Felitto
Mind Development Trainer & Coach,
Radio Talk Show Host & Author of *Intentions*
Tel. (845) 735-4284
National Grandparents Day is Sunday, September 12th

In 1979, President Jimmy Carter signed the proclamation creating National Grandparents Day. This day is intended to remind us to appreciate the wisdom and heritage of our elders, but it's also a time to remember all the shut-ins, homebound, and lonely senior citizens living in nursing homes. National Grandparents Day reminds us to care, so please visit, phone, or send a card, gift, or prayer.

Study Cites Women Most Likely To Prevent Breast Cancer With Tamoxifen

WASHINGTON, DC (Obstetrics & Gynecology) -- Tamoxifen for the prevention of breast cancer appears to be most cost-effective for a specific subset of women -- namely women ages 40-50 who are at a significant risk for the disease, according to a new analysis in the September issue of Obstetrics & Gynecology. Read more:

Greenspan Warns of Shortfall as U.S. Ages (August 30, 2004)

Concerning the future of the U.S. social insurance system, Fed Chairman Alan Greenspan warned that the U.S. may have promised workers more in Social Security and Medicare benefits than it can deliver. In order to avoid "abrupt and painful" pension reforms in the future, he suggested, Social Security and Medicare benefits should be made less generous, for example through later qualifying ages and by discouraging early retirement. However, some, including Harvard University President Lawrence Summers, seem to want to push out older professors. The content of work itself makes a difference. "It's easy to be a professor at 75... it's not so easy to lift heavy objects," said Princeton University economist Alan Blinder who also criticized the proposal to push back the retirement age. Increased immigration to the U.S. could help out; requiring Social Security payments on all incomes instead of limiting taxation to workers with $87,000 in wages or less could also help. Ending age discrimination against those who want to work would be positive. With an increasing aged population, other possibilities are available. Read more:

New Treatments For Alzheimer's Symptoms (August 26, 2004)

About half of Alzheimer's patients suffer from developing psychiatric and behavioral symptoms such as violent outbursts, paranoid thoughts and intense anxiety while they fight against slow erosion of memory, the major symptom of Alzheimer's. These behavioral changes shock family members, close friends, and patients themselves. Fortunately, a number of new studies found out that so-called atypical antipsychotics, a class of drugs normally used to treat young schizophrenics, can reduce the psychiatric symptoms of Alzheimer's. Although some serious side effects such as an increasing risk of stroke and diabetes are reported, Alzheimer's patients and their families will enjoy benefits of new treatments. Of course, families and caregivers must be vigilant that such medications are not used to sedate elderly and thus permit lower staffing levels at nursing homes. Read More

Sustaining Caregiver Coalitions
Satellite Broadcast
September 22, 2004 (1:00 PM-3:00 PM EDST)

The Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services presents “Successful Caregiver Coalitions: What is Their Secret?” a sequel to last year’s “Building Caregiver Coalitions”. This satellite broadcast features a roundtable discussion and question-and-answer session with a panel of four representatives of caregiver coalitions. The broadcast provides an opportunity to interested parties and organizations to learn how successful caregiver coalitions were developed, reasons for their success, how they sustained their initial enthusiasm as they deal with challenging issues, suggested practices that can be incorportated to keep the group energizd and productive, and other issues relating to their ongoing success.

For more information regarding the broadcast, please go to (under “News and Events”) or contact Betty Burrier at 410-786-4649 or email Bettry.

KOPE: “Creating Writing Healing Journeys”.
(Submission Deadline December 1st)

A We believe that sharing creativity and wisdom can be very rewarding and contributes to personal growth and recovery Currently; we are developing a literary project concerning the recovery and healing process following a Stroke. We are in the process of collecting and editing creative writing works on this topic. Our intention is to publish this collection in an anthology. Please contact us to confirm your interest in this project. Should you choose to participate, we would be grateful for your commitment to this expressive therapeutic process. We look forward to working together with you on this meaningful and creative healing project. Please share with us your personal experience of Stroke recovery, rehabilitation and triumph over tragedy, in your own words. We are hopeful that this writing experience will be meaningful and therapeutic for you as well as for the many readers we hope to reach. Your creative writing work will be cherished andTherapist / Educator
appreciated. Upon acceptance, your original submission will be edited and published in an anthology, a collection of approximately 30 nternational submissions. To share you story, please contact:

Liz Pearl, M.Ed.
Psychogeriatric Therapist / Educator

KOPE Associates
“Creative Writing Healing Journeys”
584 Glencairn Avenue, Toronto, ON. M6B 1Z4
416. 781. 5418
ASA Hosts Web Events On Family Caregiving

The American Society on Aging (ASA) will present two free web events to address the issue of family caregiving. The first, Policy Trends to Support Family Caregivers, will be held September 14, 2004, 10 a.m. (Pacific Time).

A web seminar, "Family Caregiving: Current Challenges for a Time-Honored Practice", will be held September 21, 2004, 10 a.m. (Pacific Time). Kathleen Kelly, Executive Director of Family Caregiver Alliance, will present at both events. More info:

Age-related Macular Degeneration.

We are very excited to be able to announce our participation in an effort to educate seniors on the very important issue of Age-related Macular Degeneration. This condition slowly disintegrates the vision of many of America’s seniors. The unfortunate truth that many seniors do not realize, however, is that you can reduce your chances of contracting AMD, and, if you catch it, AMD is treatable.

In cooperation with the AMD Alliance International, The Seniors Coalition is participating in a national tour designed to bring attention to the issue of Age-related Macular Degeneration and educating seniors as to how to limit the risks of contracting AMD and how to effectively treat this devastating condition.

As part of our work, we will be hosting events throughout the country. At each location, free vision testing will follow a brief seminar discussing the extent of AMD, the importance of early-detection, some prevention measures, and treatment. We want to be sure that you are invited to the event in your state. Have a look below to find out where we’ll be and how you can reserve a spot at the event.

If you are unable to attend, Click Here to visit the AMD website for information on Age-related Macular Degeneration and how you can find treatment and how you can work to reducing your chances of contracting AMD.

Monday, September 20th - 10 AM – 12 Noon - Fort Worth, Texas - Renaissance Worthington Hotel - 200 Main Street, Fort Worth, TX 76102 - R.S.V.P: 817-332-8125

Thursday, September 23, - 12 Noon – 1:30 PM - Washington, D.C. - 2105 Rayburn Office Building - R.S.V.P.: 703-631-4211

Monday, September 27, - 2:00 PM – 4:00 PM - Miami, Florida - Hyatt Regency Miami - 400 South East Second Ave., Miami, FL 33131 - R.S.V.P: 1-800-817-3595

Tuesday, September 28, - 10:00 AM – 12 Noon - Atlanta, Georgia - Atlanta History Centre - 130 West Paces Ferry Road NW, Atlanta, GA 30305 - R.S.V.P.: 404-266-0071

Wednesday, September 29, - 2:00 PM – 4:00 PM - New York, New York - Lighthouse International - 111 E. 59th St., New York, NY 10022 - R.S.V.P.: 212-821-9200

Thursday, September 30, - 10:00 AM – 12 Noon - Chicago, Illinois - The Ritz-Carlton - 160 East Pearson St. (at Water Tower Place), Chicago, IL 60611 - R.S.V.P.: 1-800-331-2020 ext. 310

Friday, October 1, 2:00 PM – 4:00 PM - Baltimore, Maryland - Best Western Hotel & Conference Center - 5625 O’Donnell St., Baltimore, MD 21224 - R.S.V.P.: 1-800-331-2020 ext. 310

Information About the Medicare Discount Drug Cards

Recent news accounts have highlighted the high cost of prescription drugs and the confusion surrounding the new Medicare prescription drug discount card program that took effect June 1. Although the National Partnership shares other organizations' serious concerns regarding this program, we believe it is important for low-income beneficiaries to take advantage of an important two-year $600 drug discount benefit.

Low-income Medicare beneficiaries (annual income below $12,569 for individuals or $16,862 for couples) are now eligible for a $600 annual credit towards their prescription drug costs for each of the next two years, but they must enroll. To help raise awareness about this new benefit, the National Partnership has joined with more than 70 public and private organizations to form the Access to Benefits Coalition for Prescription Drugs (ABC Rx). The coalition has a new website that provides helpful information about the program and information on how to enroll:

If you know someone who may be eligible, or for more information about the Medicare law, the drug discount program, or the ABC Rx coalition, please visit our website:

Alzheimer's And Cultural Memory

Visit the new Foundation for Alzheimer's and Cultural Memory and learn about their collective reminiscence work at:

Menopause & Spritual Passage

Beth Witrogen McLeod, author and speaker on spirituality and aging as well as caregiving is interviewing for her new book about women's spirituality at midlife. She is looking especially for women who are discovering a deep and compelling urge to become more authentic at this time of life. She is also speaking with women ranging from their 40's to 80's about the midlife journey to find their authentic woman's voice. Ms. McLeod is interested in speaking with men as well who have expertise and experiences related to this issue of spirituality at midlife. For more on Beth McLeod, visit:

NYC vs Big Pharma, or Goliath vs Goliaths

New York City has filed a lawsuit against dozens of the nation's leading pharmaceutical companies, accusing them of deceptively inflating the cost of their drugs and defrauding taxpayers out of tens of millions of dollars.

According to the New York Times, the complaint filed in Federal District Court in Manhattan charges that 44 pharmaceutical companies and their subsidiaries -- nearly every major drug maker in the nation -- have violated federal and state Medicaid laws by committing fraud, engaging in unfair and deceptive trade practices and seeking unjust enrichment. To read more to read more:

Report Examines Early Experiences With Medicare Drug Discount Cards

"Medicare Drug Discount Cards: A Work in Progress," a new Kaiser Family Foundation report, examines early experiences with the Medicare-Approved Drug Discount Card Program and potential implications for enrollees. Prepared by Health Policy Alternatives, the report analyzes prices with the discount cards and finds that the cards can deliver savings off of full retail drug prices, but the savings for individual beneficiaries can vary significantly across card programs. In addition, no notable price changes were observed after the program's initial start up period. The report and an audiocast of a media briefing, including comments from the report's authors and Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services Administrator Mark McClellan, are available at report

First Hand Foundation

First Hand Foundation is a philanthropic, nonprofit foundation established by the associates of Cerner Corporation. First Hand helps the families of children with health problems address the financial aspects of their child’s healthcare. Generally, requests for grants and cases that receive funding fall into one of three broad categories of assistance.

  1. Clinical Expenses: Expenses associated with clinical procedures and treatment, such as prescriptions, therapy, prostheses, specialized infant formula, organ transplants, craniofacial reconstruction, or dental work clinically relevant to the child’s well-being and health.
  2. Durable Medical Goods: Expenses such as wheelchairs, assistive technology equipment, specialized transportation, van lifts, and other forms of physical equipment that are clinically relevant to the child’s well-being and health. (
  3. Displacement Expenses: Expenses associated with families of seriously ill children who must relocate during treatment. Displacement costs may be for either a member(s) of the family or the child. First Hand considers covering costs that allow the child to be with a family member(s) during treatment to be clinically relevant.

In order to be considered for funding, the following criteria must be met.

  • The child must be under the care of a pediatrician.
  • (First Hand provides funding for individuals up to 20 years of age. Any child over the age of 17 must be in a childlike mental state to be eligible for funding.)
  • The case must involve a specific child with a specific need. The request must be clinically relevant to the health of the child.
  • There must be no existing financial net, such as Medicaid or private insurance, to cover the requested expenses.
  • The case must be in a proactive stage.
  • Requests for debt reduction of expenses already incurred will not be considered.

Della Reese and Today's Caregiver Magazine
Host Fearless Caregiver Conference - September 15.

Today's Caregiver magazine in association with the City of Los Angeles Department of Aging and Faith In Action will host The Fearless Caregiver Conference: a day of sharing wisdom, Wednesday, September 15 from 9:00am to 3:30pm at The Los Angeles Convention and Conference Center.

The Fearless Caregiver Conference provides practical information, advice and support for those caring for their loved ones. The conference is designed to help attendees receive hands-on advice for his or her caregiving challenges.

Learn: How to become a fearless member of their loved one's care team, tried and true "time-off techniques", expert advice for beating stress and depression, hands-on advice from local caregiving experts.

Keynote Speakers: Reverend Della Reese, actor, singer, author and ordained minister and is the National Spokeswoman for Faith in Action, an interfaith volunteer caregiving program. Gary Barg is Founder and Editor-In-Chief of Today's Caregiver magazine and, as well as author of the book, The Fearless Caregiver.will also present.

Registration: Limited free registration is available to family caregivers who reside within the City of Los Angeles. Call 800-829-2734 or go online . Registration includes lunch, vendor resources and seminars.

Phoenix, Arizona residents will enjoy a Fearless Caregiver conference hosted by the Area Agency on Aging Region One on October 27th at the Shrine Auditorium in Phoenix.

So Gary, when are you guys coming to NYC?

Support Group For Muscular Dystrophy

Just writing this to let you know my wife and I have created a Support Group for people with Muscular Dystrophy. It does cover other areas of types of MD. We added the caregiving to help those who do care for there kids or a loved one, to share there storys, as this is good therapy for all. Site .

I am my wifes caregiver, (she has xmtm a very rare type) I wouldn't trade taking care of her, for any thing else. She is my gift from GOD. I truly believe he sent her to me. Oh and August is MD awareness month. Thank You Again and GOD BLESS!!

Pat and Roger.
Dangerous Drugs Provided to 21 Percent of Elderly

One in five elderly Americans receive inappropriate prescriptions drugs, a study of 1999 insurance claims said. According to Lesley Curtis, Duke University Medical center, 162,370 patients (21%) received one or more prescription drugs which should be avoided in elderly patients or which are inappropriate for use in elderly patients. Antidepressants and doxepin- both used for treatment of depression- accounted for 23 % of claims for Beers list drugs, and 51% of these claims were for drugs with potentially harmful effects. Persons of 65 years or older are less than 15 % of the American population, but they use nearly one-third of prescription drugs. To Read More.

The Medicare Drug War:

Drug Companies and HMOs Led an Army of Nearly 1,000 Lobbyists to Promote Misguided Legislation and Increase Profits: Read the full report




While they were saying among themselves it cannot be done, it was done.

Helen Keller

If you don't let go of resentment, then you are giving your resentment power -- the more you resist letting go of the past, the more your resentment will control your attitudes and behavior

Harold Bloomfield, M.D.

Some people are so afraid to die that they never begin to live.

Henry Van Dyke

The greatest discovery you'll ever make is the potential of your own mind.-

Jose Silva

Accepting responsibility is the fulcrum point for succeeding at anything.

Jeffrey Gitomer

Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out.

John Wooden

Every day I live I am more convinced that the waste of life lies in the love we have not given, the powers we have not used, the selfish prudence that will risk nothing and which, shirking pain, misses happiness as well.

Mary Cholmondele

Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven't half the strength you think they have.

Norman Vincent Peale


You are a Beloved Child of God who is on Earth during this unique moments to co create the wonders of Heaven on Earth. You are an empowered Instrument of God. This inner knowing is opening your heart and allowing your God Self to increase the amount of Divine Light flowing through your Earthly body.

The increased influx of Light flows into the physical plane and enters the core of purity in every electron of precious life energy. The Light then pushes to the surface anything that conflicts with It frequencies of harmony, love and balance. Unfortunately, as the discordant frequencies of energy surface to be transmuted back into Light, they often create the illusion that things are getting worse. People easily witness the surfacing negativity, but what they don't see is the incredible Light that is pushing the negativity to the surface to be healed and transmuted. That phenomenon has the effect of keeping people focused on the problem instead of the solution.

When the focus of your attention is stuck on the negativity that is coming up to be healed instead of the Light of God that is pulsating with all of the patterns of perfection and solutions contained in the Causal Body of God, you empower and sustain the negative things that are surfacing. Instead of eliminating the problems, you actually intensify them. This creates the sit
uations that make you feel desperate,
overwhelmed and hopeless.

People are so used to accepting the physical plane as their true reality, that they have forgotten it is merely a reflection of their consciousness. No matter how real your life challenges seem or how entrapped you are in the grip of poverty, disease, low self-esteem, loveless relationships, hatred, corruption, ignorance, war, etcetera, those distorted expressions of life can only be maintained in your life if you sustain them through your thoughts, words, actions, feelings and beliefs. If you choose to empower the Light and all of the patterns of perfection contained in that Light instead of choosing to empower the things that cause your pain and suffering, your Earthly experiences will be transformed in “the twinkling of an eye.”

Never has there been a more opportune time for you to change your course of direction. Never has Humanity received more support from the Heavenly

Realms than we are receiving at this moment. Focus on fulfilling your dreams, and miracles will happen.

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Patti CR
New Age Study of Humanity's Purpose, Inc.
PO Box 41883, Tucson, Arizona 85717
Phone: 520-885-7909
FAX: 520-749-6643
a 501 (c) (3) nonprofit educational organization

Food For Thought

The most destructive habit.........Worry

The greatest Joy.........................Giving

The greatest loss........................Loss of-respect

The most satisfying work............Helping others

The ugliest personality trait..........Selfishness

The most endangered species.....Dedicated leaders

Our greatest natural resource......Our youth

The greatest "shot in the arm".......Encouragement

The greatest problem to overcome........Fear

The most effective sleeping pill......Peace of mind

The most crippling failure disease....Excuses

The most powerful force in life.........Love

The most dangerous pariah..............A gossiper

The world's most incredible computer......The brain

The worst thing to be without.... ...........Hope

The deadliest weapon......................The tongue

The two most power-filled words..........."I Can"

The greatest asset.............................Faith

The most worthless emotion..............Self-pity

The most beautiful attire.....................SMILE!

The most prized possession.............. Integrity

The most powerful channel of communication........Prayer

The most contagious spirit...................Enthusiasm

Five Stages Of Dying:

  1. Denial and isolation: "This is not happening to me."
  2. Anger: "How dare God do this to me."
  3. Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate."
  4. Depression: "I can't bear to face going through this, putting my family through this."
  5. Acceptance: "I'm ready, I don't want to struggle anymore."

Elizabeth Kubler Ross