{"id":3213,"date":"2004-07-12T12:00:00","date_gmt":"2004-07-12T12:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/care-givers.com\/articles\/a-complete-genius\/"},"modified":"2021-06-23T22:23:20","modified_gmt":"2021-06-23T22:23:20","slug":"a-complete-genius","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/care-givers.com\/articles\/a-complete-genius\/","title":{"rendered":"A Complete Genius"},"content":{"rendered":"

While meandering through a bookstore, I discovered a wealth of books for dummies and idiots. You have probably seen the many volumes directed at stupid people, such as Computers for Dummies<\/i> and Complete Idiot’s Guide to Dating<\/i><\/b>. I even saw Complete Idiot’s Guide to Near-Death<\/i><\/b> Experiences<\/b><\/i>! There are hundreds of titles in each of these very popular series, and the number is growing rapidly.<\/p>\n

I was struck by how readily we identify ourselves as dummies and idiots. Obviously we think we are stupid, and these books will help. I wonder what would happen if I published a similar series for geniuses, such as Golf for Sages or The Complete Genius\u2019s Guide to Home Repair<\/i>. I have a hunch they wouldn\u2019t sell very well at all. Not because we are not geniuses. Because we have been trained to regard ourselves as stupid.<\/p>\n

When I was little, I sat on my front porch one morning and sang several rousing verses of “Take Me Out to the Ballgame.” A few days later I overheard my mother casually tell someone, “Alan has a foghorn voice.” That idea made an impression on me, and I did not sing for many years. After all (at that age), your mother knows everything, and if she said I couldn\u2019t sing, I couldn\u2019t sing.<\/p>\n

Perhaps you had a similar experience. Perhaps early in life you adopted a thought about yourself that defined you as small, ugly, incapable, or unlovable. Most of us did. And perhaps you went on to live as if that identity was true. And perhaps, like many, you collected a pool of tears in your heart and went through life hurting because you wished you could be more.<\/p>\n

You are more<\/i>. The genius you were born as, still lives, and can be reactivated at any moment. Genius is your reality and the dark programming is your adopted personality. When Abraham (through Esther Hicks) was challenged, “You can\u2019t teach an old dog new tricks,” Abraham answered, “You have no idea what an old dog you are!” Who you were before you learned self-defeating tricks, is still very much available and eager to come forth and shine.<\/p>\n

There is a story in the annals of education about an elementary school teacher who arrived on the first day of school and perused her class roster. Next to each child\u2019s name was the number of a very high I.Q. “126, 135, 140,” Miss Everett read aloud, eyebrows raised. “Thank goodness I finally got a bright class!”<\/p>\n

Miss Everett went on to stimulate the loftiest abilities in her wiz-kids. She gave them challenging projects, took them on field trips, and offered them leeway to explore their work in creative ways. At the end of the semester all the students earned A\u2019s and B\u2019s. The day after report cards came out, the principal called her into his office and asked, “Miss Everett, what did you do with these kids?”<\/p>\n

“What do you mean?” she asked innocently.<\/p>\n

“You took some of the lowest-functioning students in the school and turned them into geniuses!”<\/p>\n

“I don\u2019t understand what you\u2019re talking about,” the teacher replied. “These kids were bright when I got them. Here, just look at their I.Q.\u2019s in my roll book.”<\/p>\n

The principal scanned her roster and replied, astonished, “Miss Everett, these are their locker numbers!”<\/p>\n

The people around us tend to become who we think they are, so let us focus on the highest in everyone we meet.<\/p>\n

Renowned success teacher Dale Carnegie, author of the most popular self-help book of all time, How to Win Friends & Influence People<\/b><\/i>, began his career in an unexpected way. One night while teaching an adult school English course, he ran out of lecture material before the class time was up. So he invited several students to each stand before the class and talk about him – or herself – an exercise utterly unheard of at that time. The results were extraordinary! The speakers came to life in a way he had not seen when they were studying English, and the class responded energetically. Mr. Carnegie had happened upon the transformational power of authentic self-expression, which ultimately revolutionized (perhaps even created) the genre of personal development. Later he wrote, “Give them a reputation to live up to!”<\/p>\n

The words “genius” and “genuine” are almost identical, and they proceed from the same Latin root word. The key to genius is genuineness. The more you are who you are, the more your genius comes forth. On the other hand, the more you sell out and try to be what you think you should be or live up to others\u2019 expectations, the more you stifle your brilliance. Most great scientists, inventors, musicians, and artists, are somewhat eccentric. They have the guts to be all of what they are, even if the package doesn\u2019t fit the social mold. They just let all of their talents rip, and in so doing they change the world for the better.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s to your genuine genius. I\u2019ll look for your book in the store.<\/p>\n

By Alan Cohen<\/p>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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